I’ve had many conversations lately about self-care with clients, friends and family. I also have first hand experience with how challenging it can be to make self-care a priority.
I wish I knew how to harness the commitment and drive when we make the decision to take better care of ourselves. I personally, have struggled with my own self-care particularly around food and my relationship to my body. Up until now, I’ve been on a yoyo journey, gaining and losing about 30+ pounds throughout my life. This has had a profound effect on my self-esteem, my energy and it fed my beliefs that there was something wrong with me. I felt shame that I wasn’t able to take charge of my life in this area, and I often felt a sense of resignation that this struggle was just my plight in life.
The unspoken shame and self hatred around my body consumed my thoughts and my energy, leaving very little energy to do anything other than work and take care of daily commitments and chores. Can you relate? Many of us tend to distract ourselves, from ourselves, with food, work, alcohol, smoking, shopping or any vice that shifts our energy to a state of self loathing that many of us know so well.
Last year in November, I was beyond fed up with this familiar and painful pattern, but I found the energy to say “NO MORE.” There was a shift however, in what “NO MORE” meant to me. In the past, I only focused on losing weight, and it was all about getting to that elusive number that I was attached to that was going to give me that freedom I so desired. This time, my focus has been on the joy of taking a stand for myself. My “NO MORE” statement gave me permission to focus on putting my self-care first. I was seeking more energy, mindfulness and love rather than obsessing on losing weight.
As a result of my self care, I have an abundance of energy that has been freed up, because I’m not focusing on what’s wrong with me, I’m focusing on what’s important to me, my relationships, my business and the communities I’m involved with. In the process, I’ve lost 30+ pounds and I’m feeling so much lighter both physically and metaphorically.
I am choosing to put the oxygen mask on myself first, everyday, so that I can be fully present in all areas of my life, minus the distractions from my internal critic directing the show. I continue to learn that there is nothing to fix within me. It’s a journey of choice, awareness, commitment, trust, communication and joy as I navigate the waters of self-care.
Are you looking for more energy in your life? Are you ready to take your life on so that you can release yourself from the painful admonishments you say to yourself? There is so much more waiting for you and the time is NOW to give yourself permission to take your power back in your life.